Reinvest that physical energy and attention back into your partner. 3. Maintain Strict Boundaries
Taboo or forbidden attractions often feel heightened simply because they are off-limits. The mind can mistake the thrill of a forbidden thought for genuine, deep-seated desire.
There is no version of this story where pursuing the mother ends well. It is a "scorched earth" path. If the attraction is a dealbreaker for your desire for your girlfriend, the most "deep" and honorable thing you can do is exit the relationship—not to pursue the mother, but to allow your girlfriend to find someone who sees her as the standard, not the runner-up. Reinvest that physical energy and attention back into
Being known as the partner who pursued a parent is a social stigma that is very difficult to shake. 3. Identify the "Forbidden Fruit" Effect
This situation often signals a deeper issue within the primary relationship. When we focus on someone external, it is sometimes a subconscious way of avoiding intimacy or dissatisfaction with our partner. Ask yourself if there are elements of your relationship that feel stagnant or if you are looking for an "escape" through a forbidden fantasy. Shifting your focus back to the qualities that made you choose your girlfriend in the first place is vital for the health of your bond. The mind can mistake the thrill of a
Discovering a partner's attraction to or betrayal with a parent causes profound psychological distress, shattering their sense of security, self-worth, and trust.
You could cause a permanent rift between a mother and daughter. If the attraction is a dealbreaker for your
To help you navigate this further, I can offer more specific advice if you tell me: Have these feelings led to any yet?
Treat your interactions with her mother the way you would treat a strict professional relationship. Keep conversations polite, brief, and entirely platonic. Avoid flirtatious banter, lingering eye contact, or overly familiar physical touch like prolonged hugs. Re-evaluate the Current Relationship
Option A gives you temporary excitement followed by years of shame. Option B gives you nothing to feel excited about right now – just discipline – but builds a life you can be proud of.